As a species, we human beings just love to be right. We hate to be wrong and we’ll go to any lengths to be right. Countless relationships go sour because each person is more committed to being right than happy. Numerous business dealings get full of conflict because no one wants to appear wrong. Heck, entire nations do stupid things for years simply because people are adamantly committed to being right. If we were willing to be wrong, then what? Goodness maybe a new possibility would open up and how horrible THAT would be (dripped in sarcasm).

What has gotten me on this rant is the recent video floating around the ‘net of Matt Lauer and Donnie Deutsch attempting to ruffle the feathers of Timothy Ferris, author of The 4 Hour Workweek. It is such a lovely illustration of two guys trying to prove one guy wrong simply because they don’t think what Tim writes about is possible. Well, guess what guys? Mr. Ferris is living what he writes about. So, like him, his style, his book or not the guy is happily living life by his own design. Read the rest of this entry »

Last night was the season finale of the Ex-Wives Club on ABC with Debbie Ford and it was a doozy. It was a fine example of someone having a great epiphany and then refusing to move forward to a new way of being.

Unfortunately for Dillon, he missed the memo on the fact that you need to change your behavior and make powerful (if frightening) decisions if you want to REALLY move forward. What was the epiphany that could’ve moved him to an inspiring future if he had been willing to do the work and make new choices? It was that you need to love and appreciate all parts of who you are (even the junk).

Getting in touch with and truly embracing and loving (not just putting up with) all the parts of who we are is truly the ticket to freedom. Read the rest of this entry »

Greetings to all of you who discovered this blog through Curve Magazine. The most recent issue (July) features yours truly in their “Out in Front” column. I can’t tell you how thrilled I am to be included in this fine magazine that I’ve been reading since I first came out 15 years ago.

As you know from reading the article, I am a life and business coach who thrives on working with lesbian business owners and professionals who are frustrated and angry with having to compromise who they are in order to get what they want. I coach them so they can learn how to be comfortable in their own skin anytime, anywhere and live life by their own design.

I invite you to take a look around and check out some recent favorite articles such as the interview series which takes a look at successful women from all ends of our diverse spectrum and the recent series of articles that take a look at why Debbie Ford’s work and the reality show “The Ex-Wives Club” really does apply to us too at the end of the day. You can also get a glimpse of my take on coming out with confidence at this post.

If being more comfortable in your own skin sounds good to you, check out the Free 12 Part eCourse I offer to help you get started. You can sign up on the top left hand side of this (and every) page.

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In other words, are you ok with failing, looking like a fool, or doing something less than perfect? If these questions cause a knot in your stomach and a tightening in your chest it means on some level you are not comfortable in your own skin. How do I know? Because I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum.

Last night I had the honor of speaking at the Doylestown Women’s Business Forum business meeting on the topic of “How to Be Comfortable in Your Own Skin Anytime, Anywhere” and how being so can boost your business. During the meeting I talked about one of the secrets of being comfortable in your own skin - releasing fear, expectation, and judgment. This secret is key to being powerful in your life and your business because if you are holding onto the railing of safety with a death grip, you will miss so many opportunities it won’t even be funny. Life IS dangerous. After all, none of us will get out of it alive. The good news is that stepping out and taking the risk to do things you’ve always wanted to or the actions necessary to move forward on your dreams and goals doesn’t need to be a fright fest. Read the rest of this entry »

Last night was another episode of the Ex-Wives Club with Debbie Ford on ABC. Each week Debbie and the celebrity hosts shepherd people through the angst of their breakup so they can mend their broken heart and move on with their lives in an even more powerful and positive way. The question from the Debbie Ford workshop that I’d like to talk about today is: “What is your biggest regret?”

When we carry regret around in our heart it is like hauling along a 100lb weight around our neck and feeling great shame. This shame and weight is always there even when we’re experiencing positive things in our life and it dulls our experience of what IS while we’re lamenting over what we think “should have been” or what we think we “should have done”. It keeps us stuck in the past and unable to move forward. It is like wearing concrete boots as we try to walk forward in our life. Not pleasant and it holds us back.

In last night’s show Read the rest of this entry »